The Coveted Life – An Evening with the Coveteur & American Express

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Last night I attended an evening with The Coveteur and American Express, which featured a panel discussion on a look into The Coveted Life.

 

 

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The discussion of The Coveted Life centered around what enriches your life, and how to achieve it. The panel included Laura Scheck from American Express, Stephanie Mark from The Coveteur, Liloo Alim from the Four Seasons Toronto, and moderator Catriona Smart from coco&cowe.

The idea of what enriches your life seemed to be a very personal question for each panel member. Everyone on the panel had a different answer that they put a lot of thought into, but all of the answers seemed to resonate with me. Balance, cherishing the small moments, and my favourite answer – just say yes and figure it out later! It all sounded like good advice to me!

The talk moved into details about trends each panel member has seen recently, and Laura from American Express said that she is seeing people want more premium service – valet service at the airport, premium lounge access, and overall front of the line service is in demand. She said that she has noticed there are less people travelling through the airport in sweatpants, and more are sporting a polished look on their travels. Very true – I have noticed the same!

Liloo said she has noticed at the Four Seasons that people are taking more time to be pampered with spa weekends, and are generally looking for a more healthy getaway. She is finding guests are looking for where the nearest juice bar is, and plan activities that are more health conscience.

This seemed to be a bigger trend abroad as well. Stephanie from The Coveteur mentioned that even in Paris vegan restaurants and juice bars are starting to pop up, which is something you would have never seen in the past. Everyone is focusing more on eating local, and eating healthier.

 

 

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Many of the questions were directed to Stephanie Mark from The Coveteur as she has had access to some of the worlds most amazing closets!

She talked about how she provides access to her readers when it comes to the closets and wardrobes that The Coveteur covers. She said that they try to make sure they cover things differently by gaining access in a way that no one else does. She says they strive to get insider tips from beauty editors to share with readers, and they constantly work at staying cutting edge and ahead of the curve. Stephanie said connections are key to what they do, and relationships are a big part of that. They personalize everything and stay away from stock photography. The Coveteur experience is different than any other.

A portion of the panel discussion was devoted to service. In a poll last year it was revealed that very few Canadian’s viewed themselves to have had impressive customer service. With social media being what it is, it seems like everyone is complaining about some type of service they have received!

The panel gave some great advice on how to control what kind of service you receive. One of the best pieces of advice was to talk to your service provider, whether it be in a hotel, at the airport, or anywhere you are looking for assistance, and give them an idea of what you are looking for. Many people just expect that things will be provided to them, but they don’t realize that sometimes they need to vocalize what they are looking for. It’s important to give someone a chance to provide you with the service you want, and sometimes that involves telling them your expectations.

It’s also important to be nice! It seems like such simple advice, but it’s so important to be nice to the person providing you with service! You will be well remembered for this, and the service provider will want to make sure you are happy even more.

Finally, it’s very important to thank someone for good service. It’s so important to remember how you would feel in a similar situation if you went above and beyond for someone – make sure you tell someone when they have done something great for you!

My favourite talking point was about closets and wardrobes with Stephanie! She explained that in her experience some of the best closets were not necessarily excessive, but had a curated collection. She said that in her own personal life she thought more was more, so a larger wardrobe meant you had style. She said her best advice was to shop less, and put more time and thought into purchases. Something that works well for her is a versatile wardrobe where you can take an outfit from work, to dinner, to the airport.

She said it’s important as well to get organized! This is such great advice. She said that you can look at your wardrobe and think you have nothing to wear, but it could be because you have a preconceived notion of what you have. You may thing you know what is in your wardrobe, but if it’s disorganized then you don’t really know what is in there. Stephanie said often times they would look into someone’s closet for The Coveteur and pull out an amazing piece the owner wouldn’t even remember having!

Overall I really loved the panel discussion, and I learned some great tips and tricks to ensure I have the experience I want to have when it comes to service, and it really made me think about what it means to have an enriched life. It was really interesting to hear the prospective of each panel member!

 

 

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Guess what I am doing this weekend? Organizing my closet. I’m feeling inspired!

 

 

 

 

Why Do I Have so Much Mother’s Guilt?

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On the weekend I told my husband I wanted to write a post about mother’s guilt, and he asked me “What the heck is that?”.

I gave him a scenario from last week that involved him. I woke up with my son every day last week to get him ready for school, or on my days off to get him up for breakfast and off to whatever plans we had going on that day. My husband usually works earlier than I do, so I handle all of the school drop-off’s, and on Friday and Saturday morning I happened to have play dates that I had to take him to early.

On Sunday morning my husband allowed me to sleep in and said he would get up with my son. Somehow I ended up sleeping in until 11:00am and woke with a panic. Where was everyone? Why was it so quiet? Why was I so rested?!

I called my husband and it turned out he took my son for a little coffee date at Starbucks, and then they headed to Joey’s World to hang out for a few hours.

I felt really guilty about the whole thing.

I felt guilty that my husband was the one who had to try and wrangle my son into his clothes for the day (never an easy task). I felt guilty that my husband had to try and get my son out the door because that usually involves begging, pleading and a bit of bribery to get his hat, gloves and jacket on him. I felt guilty that I wasn’t there to play with my son at the play place. I felt guilty I wasn’t there to help my husband entice my son to actually LEAVE the play place. I felt bad that I missed out on the cute moments they probably had while sitting at Starbucks.

So why couldn’t I just enjoy that morning of freedom? Where does all of this guilt come from?

If I had to get up six days in a week with my son, it doesn’t make a lot of sense that I felt bad for that one day I let my husband do it.

When I told my husband that I felt guilty about that morning, he was in disbelief. Why would you ever feel guilty he asked? He told me that I do everything he did that morning and more all the time, so why can’t he do the same?

I asked him if he ever felt guilt like that, and he said no – he said he doesn’t think about it.

I was so jealous in that moment. I feel guilty all the time! I feel guilty when I leave my son with his grandparents for a night out, and I feel guilty when I leave my son and husband at home while I go out to an event. I always feel really guilty when I pick my son up later from school because I was late from work.

My rational-self understands that it’s good for not only myself to get some alone time, or time with friends to keep a bit of my independence, and my sanity. I also understand it’s great for my son to spend quality time alone with his father, and his with his extended family.

I thought really hard about it this weekend, and the best explanation for the guilt I feel is that no one understands better than I do not only how hard it can be to raise my son, and also how amazing it is.

It’s not easy to raise a toddler. Sometimes he’s a little moody, or clingy, or difficult, or particular. He likes his cereal poured to a specific level that he calls “big bigger!”, and he likes to have his boots put on him before his jacket. He likes to bring a different car with him each time he leaves the house, and for the last couple weeks he’s wanted to bring his fish Nemo everywhere. I know all of these things better than anyone.

I also know that when he really likes something he throws his hands into the air and says “I like it!”, and that his favourite thing to do with me is to run full speed with a giant smile on his face as he knocks me over. Who would ever want to miss these things? They make me the happiest!

What I have figured out for me, is that my mother’s guilt is a combination of understanding how hard it can be to take care of a toddler, and a bit of worry that I am missing out on something awesome.

Although I am completely jealous that my husband doesn’t feel any of this guilt I carry around with me, I am pretty grateful that he is awesome enough to support me spending time on my own, or out with friends, and that he understands the importance of us spending time on our own as well.

I feel like this guilt will never go away. Mostly because I have another 16 years of getting my son out the door in the morning, or driving him to soccer practice, or to meet his friends. And mostly because he won’t stop being his awesome self that I don’t want to miss a moment of. I am just hoping that the rational side of me will win out and let me be ok with taking a break from the resulting guilt.

My Fabulous Visit to Her Majesty’s Pleasure

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Things that make me happy include a glass of champagne, bite-sized macarons, getting pampered at the spa, and generally hanging out in pretty places. I pretty much thought I died and went to heaven when I checked out Her Majesty’s Pleasure last night in Toronto on King West.

Her Majey’s Pleasure is actually many things – a café and juice bar, salon and nail bar, boutique, full bar, and event space. From the outside it’s so pretty people couldn’t help themselves but stop outside to take a look!

 

 

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A girlfriend and I stopped in for a manicure, and we waited in the bar section for our service. When the bartender introduced himself he explained that there was no bar menu per say, but instead you would tell him what you liked, and he would make something up for you. If you didn’t like it, he would go ahead and make you something else! We wanted champagne, but since it was only sold by the bottle there, we settled on a glass of prosecco and a birthday cake macaron. Best choice possible.
 

 
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The most difficult part of the night was navigating the nail polish wall. I’d never seen one larger! Thank god we had something to eat and drink first, because deciding took an eternity!
 

 
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The space itself is gorgeous. They have a cute little boutique (where I picked up some desperately-required cuticle oil), an event space in the back, and a full hair salon.
 

 

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The pedicure area was semi-private, while the manicure station was in a bar setting with easy access to drinks!
 

 
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The staff was incredibly friendly, and it felt like a night spent with a huge group of girlfriends. Everyone was having a great time, and we couldn’t wait to go back.

It’s the perfect spot for a relaxing spa visit, or a great place to get pampered before a night out. I think a bachelorette party would be a blast here too!

 

 
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Her Majesty’s Pleasure is located at 556 King Street West in Toronto, and you can visit them here on Facebook!

 

 

My Son is Not Going To Have a Perfect Christmas

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Have you noticed yourself throwing around the word “perfect” a lot lately?

I tend to throw that word around a lot around the holiday’s, and I’ve realized recently that it’s a very heavy word.

When my son was going to be celebrating his first Christmas at the ripe old age of 7 months, I knew I wanted his holiday to be “perfect”. What did that mean in my world?

Family Christmas cards sent out with his cute little mug on them, gift tags with a sketch of our family on them, a Christmas tree with his own personalized ornament, toys carefully selected and wrapped under the tree, and a cute little Christmas morning outfit for him to wear, picked especially for that day.

The stage was set for him to have the “perfect” Christmas, so what could go wrong?

Well, a lot as it turned out!

He was cranky on Christmas Eve, and I made the situation worse by waking him up early from his nap to arrive on time to our first Christmas dinner.

He was squirmy and crying before dinner, which elicited some of my most loathed questions from friends and family such as “What’s wrong with him?”, and “Is he always like this?”.

The next morning I was ready to shuffle him from house to house, family to family without making time again for his nap. We wanted to be everywhere to spend time with as many people as possible so they could all enjoy his first Christmas with him. Family members waited in anticipation for him to squeal with joy as he opened his gifts. What they got was a kid I couldn’t even keep on my lap who would rather play with the T.V. remote rather then the shiny, new, carefully selected gift in front of him.

We ended Christmas feeling exhausted, and I realized I hardly had any photos of my son looking happy over Christmas.

That was probably because he wasn’t very happy. I look back now thinking, what the heck was I doing?

The first thing wrong with this un-merry Christmas was that I spent a lot of time worried about other people’s first Christmas with my son. I tried to fit in too much in a short period of time. I spent so much time running around and trying to be on time, I completely ignored what was best for my son – in this case his naps! If I had of just done some rescheduling, or just arranged to a be a bit late, I could have avoided a lack of sleep issue compounding on our already cranky baby’s issues.

My next issue was throwing around the word “perfect” when talking about his first Christmas. Is “perfect” even possible with all of the variables a child can throw at you? Those snowflake shaped Christmas cookies you had in the oven could be burned in seconds after a major diaper disaster in the next room, or the carefully selected gift you presented to him (that you were sure would be the heart-stopping gift of the holiday) could be nonchalantly pushed aside so he could play with the box it came in. You can plan and Pinterest your way through the holidays, but you have to be prepared that “perfect” probably isn’t going to happen. By the way, cookies freshly baked out of a Pillsbury package are just as yummy as ones you hijacked from Martha Stewart Living it turns out.

What I think I’ve learned is important, is really making sure my child enjoys the moment.

Last week I bought tickets with friends to an event at the Toronto Zoo. Children could make crafts, play games, have cookies and milk as a treat, and then meet Santa.

When we got there I forgot my son’s stroller and had to hijack an abandoned park-owned wagon, I wiped his tears as he cried about travelling in said-wagon, I pried his little body off of my legs when we arrived because he was scared of all the people there, and I listened to him say “no” each of the twelve times I asked him if he wanted to do a craft. Sitting on Santa’s lap? Not a chance.

Does this day sound like a disaster? It actually wasn’t. He played with his friends, danced to the music playing at the party, stole quite a few cookies as it turns out just for fun because he didn’t even eat them, and he went to see his favourite animals play in the snow – the panda bears.

For two days he talked about the amazing “Panda Bear Party” he went to with his friends. He had an awesome time, and it wasn’t perfect, and it didn’t go as planned, but it was a pretty perfect day to him.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a complete Pinterest addict who has plans to make my hot chocolate from scratch and bake cookies into the shapes of snowman before trimming our tree. I even have those pyjama’s picked out for Christmas day, and I’ve been carefully selecting gifts for him to open that morning. The biggest thing I’ve learned is that I can set the stage for the “perfect” Christmas all I want, but it’s probably not going to work out the way I’ve planned. All I really need to make sure of is that my son has a great day on his own terms.

Giving Back This Holiday Season With Williams-Sonoma, Pottery Barn, Pottery Barn Kids and West Elm

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What are you doing this holiday season to give back?

My change purse is totally empty right now after seeing an Air Cadet standing outside of the mall this weekend. I dumped all of my change into his bucket because I felt bad for the poor kid (it was pretty chilly!). On my way out of the supermarket I bought a toy for a toy drive and put it into the donation bin. I also purchased a few gifts for a family some friends and I are sponsoring through Big Brothers Big Sisters of Canada. And that was just this weekend – Mother Teresa I am not, but I am sucker for anyone who asks for help, especially at this time of year.

I’m lucky enough to be thinking about decorating my house, trimming the tree and making cookies next weekend, while others may not have the opportunity to do the same. I may only be doing small things to help, but hopefully it can make a difference!

This will be the fifth annual holiday season that Williams-Sonoma, Pottery Barn, Pottery Barn Kids, and West Elm will be running a holiday fundraising campaign. They are collectively raising money for the SickKids Foundation, Alberta Children’s Hospital Foundation, BC Children’s Hospital Foundation, Stollery Children’s Hospital Foundation, Montreal Children’s Hospital Foundation and Sainte-Justine UHC Foundation.

The campaign runs until December 14, and each store will provide you with a chance to donate at the check out while you are making your purchases. Wait, what? You need a seventh throw pillow for your guest suite? Sounds great – while you are at it make a donation to charity at the cash register! I’ll be doing the same.

In addition, Pottery Barn and Pottery Barn Kids will feature select holiday gifts with a portion of proceeds benefitting the participating hospital foundations. Since you will likely be shopping at one of these places this holiday season, why not pick something up that will help others at the same time?

The items below found at Pottery Barn and Pottery Barn kids will have a portion of their proceeds benefitting the hospitals I mentioned above.

Happy holiday shopping!

 

 

Pottery Barn Jingle Peace Pillow

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Pottery Barn Kids Bear Woodland Stocking

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Photos courtesy of Pottery Barn and Pottery Barn Kids